“Hold Off, So Is This a night out together?”: Another Queer Podcast about Dating | Autostraddle

Welcome to
“Hold Off, So Is This A Romantic Date”
the podcast about queer relationship you won’t ever realized you always needed, hosted by me, Christina, and Drew Gregory!

This podcast was given birth to off Drew and I also’s shared passion for voice memos and strong talks about dating. We have been sending one another sound memos for only over per year now, going deeply on things received really likes about online dating (people! fun! flirting!) together with situations I dislike about internet dating (People! Fun! Flirting!). We had been having a lot of fun, thoughtful, and informative conversations and honestly, it seemed rude to deprive the greater community of these!

Contemplate united states as the friendly area co-hosts, leading you through very particular queer dating conundrums because actually, directly online dating podcasts could never. Conundrums like: how will you flirt via IG stories? How will you take very long, drawn out flirting to the next level? So what does it mean to believe everyone is into you? We’ll talk with some of Autostraddle’s best article writers, perform some very certain video games, report on the pop music culture crushes of-the-moment as well as, try to answer the eternal question of one’s occasions:

Wait…is this a night out together???

Hear the teaser below and whet your appetite, following smash that “subscribe” switch anywhere great podcasts are distributed, therefore guaranteeing you a delightful August 11th, as soon as the first recognized occurrence drops!

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Drew:

Hi, I’m Drew.

Christina:

And That I’m Christina. And this refers to

Wait, Is It a Date?

An Autostraddle podcast that’s aimed at practical question, “hold off, is it a romantic date?”

Drew:

I am so thrilled discover.

Theme song performs

Christina:

Yeah. In my opinion we have been on a trip to discover exactly what are dates and just what are not times, as buddies, plus as a people, I think.

Drew:

Yeah. As a people. Definition, the queers, the lesbians.

Christina:

Should we tell those queers and lesbians just what the entire indealment is, like what we’re doing within this moment?

Drew:

Like just who we have been?

Christina:

Yeah.

Drew:

Yeah. I will get 1st. I’m called Drew Gregory. I am a filmmaker and an author for autostraddle.com, the website. I do some film and TV feedback, and intercourse and internet dating writing, and private essays, and issues that combine all of those situations. I am trans and I am a lesbian, and I also feel I should add a 3rd thing because things are in threes. Exactly what otherwise? Exactly what more?

Christina:

Situations do go on threes. You have got great tresses.

Drew:

Oh, thank-you.

Christina:

You may have incredible hair, i do believe that is really important.

Drew:

Those tend to be my identities. Trans. Lesbian. Great hair.

Christina:

Those are your identities.

Drew:

Yeah.

Christina:

I’ve usually said that you’re a woman of hair experience. I’ve usually asserted that about yourself.

Drew:

Yeah. This really is important.

Christina:

Yeah. I will be Christina Tucker. I will be additionally an author at Autostraddle, if you’re able to accept is as true, exactly who writes about… oh, why don’t we just state whatever pops into the mind. That is actually the ambiance. Also a lesbian. I’m Black. I don’t know which more I am.

Drew:

You might also need great tresses.

Christina:

Oh yeah, no, I mean, I think this is exactly maybe a podcast of hair experience. Possibly which should be our tagline, “a podcast of hair experience.” I guess the people are likely thinking how exactly we have got to this podcast specifically.

Drew:

Yes. And like every great thing in daily life — and by that i am talking about, extremely, hardly any — it began as a highdea, as something I sent you in a voice memo, high. And going back further than that, we began delivering voice memos to one another at the start of the pandemic.

Drew, in a voice memo:

Okay. I am just going to let you know like feelings that You will find, and then you can go from there and respond to me, perhaps not respond to myself, whatever. I am just like, this really is me personally becoming direct and obvious. Okay. I’m some one who… i enjoy discussing internet dating. It really is one of my main topics of conversation. I’ve today said my piece.

Christina, in a voice memo:

Thanks for stating the portion. Also, six moments and 54 seconds. Truly, somewhat amazing for you to get that in that timeframe. I never truly think about online dating. In my opinion, probably, an opposite feeling of your like to think of matchmaking and mention dating and, like, be internet dating. I believe those tend to be my feelings. Really, I’m sending a Drew-level vocals memo, a Drew-length sound memo today. I will send this.

Drew, in a voice memo:

Yeah. I am aware you don’t think of online dating, not around myself, maybe around anybody else I’m sure?

Christina, in a voice memo:

I believe about internet dating not as much as practically anyone I additionally know. I’m not sure. We genuinely have no idea easily’ve came across anybody who willn’t consider dating in so far as I would or as far as I do not, i assume.

Drew:

We failed to truly know one another. We had been peers at Autostraddle, but also for people that simply don’t understand, Autostraddle is actually a virtual a workplace. Its more of a Slack situation than a, each of us arrive to like lesbian headquarters as well as briefcases. That isn’t really the vibe. We don’t truly know one another. And, the beginning of pandemic, there was some DM sliding and some relationship building plus some vocals memoing. And we also would constantly joke it was like we had a podcast because we’d send these extended vocals memos. After which as I was actually stoned, I was like, “We actually should.” And here our company is.

Christina:

Yeah. I realize that which you indicate by large tactics not necessarily being the best a few ideas, but i really do have a very clear recollection of hearing you say that and being like, “Yeah, naturally we ought to have a podcast. We are performing per other. You need to invite other individuals engrossed?”

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. Typically my large ideas tend to be things like, “Oh my personal God, there must be a TV tv show known as

Discover Your Celebrity Twin,

for which you grab a high profile right after which they meet a person that — like a haphazard individual who has their unique very same beginning chart. That also, is one of my large a few ideas that i believe might be fantastic. Its like…

Christina:

Yeah, first, TM, Drew Gregory, copyright laws.

Drew:

Which is a free one. I do not care and attention.

Christina:

No, it’s not. Drew, i am getting you cash, I am going to be your cash manager for the. Definitely not.

Drew:

I recently need to see this stuff in the field. Generally, this is certainly a dating podcast, a queer matchmaking podcast. And one reason the reason why really that topic, in lieu of any number of other activities Christina and I mention, is simply because i really like matchmaking and Christina does not love internet dating and that’s a fun small.

Christina:

Less of a fan.

Drew:

And dispute is really… That’s where drama happens. In my opinion Socrates asserted that.

Christina:

Completely.

Drew:

So in retrospect that is our subject. We’re going to protect all sorts of things.

Christina:

Yeah. We are going to talk about all the finest queer matchmaking conundrums, dating via Instagram.

Drew, in audio clip from future event:

Correct me personally basically’m wrong, but I think Instagram is the best queer internet dating application.

Shelli, in sound clip from potential episode:

A thousand percent. It is the most useful.

Christina, in sound video from potential episode:

I have heard this from other queers.

Shelli, in sound clip from potential occurrence:

Definitely. It offers you literally everything required, unless somebody’s private. But even if you’re private, child, I’ll figure out about you, some kind of means.

Drew, in audio video from potential episode:

We will speak about the best intercourse we’ve had.

Dani, in sound clip from potential event:

After which I finally asked like, “No, do you go beyond here to possess sex? Tend to be we going to make love?” And happened to be like, “Yeah, that’s what i needed.” And it also had been like, the cat in addition to dog had been during the space so there ended up being cat and dog hair every-where. And I was actually like, certainly having an allergic reaction while we happened to be having sex. The orgasm had been, like, chef’s hug. It actually was the most perfect knowledge.

Drew, in sound video from future episode:

Wow.

Christina, in audio video from future occurrence:

I question if it is something towards hives that actually included. Like somewhat ‘jenesequa’ to that particular orgasm feel. It actually was like, “Ooh, i am a little itchy also.” I wonder exactly how much that factors. We’re talking about simple tips to break up with people.

Ro, in audio video from future occurrence:

It feels like a very direct culture thing, too.

Christina, in audio clip from future occurrence:

Yeah.

Ro, in audio video from potential occurrence:

At the least in my experience, I feel like… My right friends are those who are more prone to say, “Well, bang that person. See your face sucks,” if I end a relationship with some one. Whereas, queer people in living are those who happen to be more prone to maintain friendships with exes or at least see all of our exes in a holistic means.

Christina, in sound video from potential episode:

Whatever you could consider in an internet dating podcast, and I’m perhaps not browsing sit for your requirements folks, in addition more. More than you might ever contemplate.

Drew, in audio clip from potential event:

If you are sexting via text, is it like what you would like all of them… Could You Be doing role-plays of a situation, like “you’re coming in contact with me personally nowadays” or “I wish you’re holding,” just what tense tend to be we in?

Kayla, in sound video from future episode:

Yeah, I found myself gonna ask the exact same question, actually, for the reason that it’s something’s constantly interesting in my experience, particularly just because many of us are people, also.

Christina, in audio video from future episode:

I became probably say, a small grouping of authors fancy, “just what tight are we working?”

Kayla, in audio video from future occurrence:

Point of view.

Christina, in sound clip from potential episode:

It’s a close next, what is actually occurring here?

Kayla, in sound video from potential episode:

Like, strictly second?

Drew:

Here is the thing about queer men and women. Let me make it clear.

Christina:

Okay. Pull-up a chair. Thanks for visiting your TED Chat. Let’s go-off.

Drew:

We now have numerous experiences and tend to be so much more fascinating. Simply once I consider the manner in which directly folks mention online dating, it really is therefore monotonous. And I also think so typically, queer matchmaking discussions are extensions of main-stream dating discourse, but adding such things as “coming out” and “first-time you are with a blah, blah, blah.” It is like — absolutely a lot more nuance in so much more… It really is therefore interesting. Just what some sort of that it’s, queer gender and queer dating.

Christina:

We have used such as the extremely classic sorts of dull construction of heterosexual matchmaking and extremely delivered it into a fresh globe, full of extended discussions and handling all of our feelings. It really is amazing work.

Drew:

Yeah. I’m actually thrilled and that I wish everyone are thrilled, because all of our very first occurrence happens each week from these days immediately after which, there will end up being new periods every Wednesday.

Christina:

This has been 1 week before you’ll notice the podcast. Nailed it. Crushed it. Yeah. Every Wednesday, you’ll not merely get

To L and Straight Back

on Mondays, you will get

Wait, So Is This A Night Out Together?

on Wednesdays.

Drew:

And that I co-host both, so if you hate me, i assume you are not enjoying Autostraddle podcasts. Of course, if you do at all like me, you’re welcome.

Christina:

Additionally, unless you like Drew, become adults, is really what i must say.

Drew:

I’m not for everybody, I’m okay thereupon. I believe it’s probably best that you never be for everyone.

Christina:

Certain. I believe that is entirely fair. And maybe a subject we could talk about using one in our future episodes. What the results are if you are not for all? I liked that We moved like, “Ooh, let us make this all-inclusive.” What takes place as soon as you, we, as individuals. You stated, let us do an entire occurrence when it comes to, “let’s say I’m not for all?”

Drew:

Well, it is Leo season and that I’m a Leo climbing and I also felt like making it about me. 00:09:54].

Christina:

As am I. Thank you so much definitely.

Drew:

The audience is twin Leo risings about podcast, and that’s part of exactly why it will be so good. You can listen to us wherever you tune in to your own podcast. It’s going to be a fairly standard podcast scenario. Absolutely nothing fancy, no riddles must be resolved to get the occurrence, it will likely be immediately for your needs.

Christina:

Not the employer of you. There are several solutions, perform what you will really.

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Okay. Well, you can find all of us on Twitter and Instagram at @waitisthisadate. And you can email all of us at waitisthisadate@gmail.com. And you may find me on Twitter and Instagram and TikTok at @draw_gregory, my personal name in the present tense.

Christina:

We have looked over the social media addresses many times and I have not, until this second, discovered it is “draw.” Wow.

Drew:

Yeah. Well that is the thing, Drew had been used and that I do not know how… Oh, I found myself matchmaking somebody that truly… in fact this person exactly who I dated, I didn’t get lots regarding that connection, except we stated this notion and she believed it absolutely was so amusing, like also funny, truthfully, like part of the problem, i believe maybe. And I also ended up being encouraged to do so, immediately after which it’s simply stuck.

Christina:

Wow.

Drew:

But yeah. Occasionally people think I’m a visual artist while understand what, i enjoy end up being considered that way, but I can’t, Really don’t obviously have drawing skills.

Christina:

I am going to say there’s nothing regarding brand for Drew than getting love, “Oh, that’s your own Twitter handle.” And also you being like, “really, it is a funny tale about dating.”

Drew:

Indeed, just.

Christina:

Perfect.

Drew:

What exactly are your individual manages, and tend to be they linked to your passionate life?

Christina:

Merely, no. There is me personally at @c_gracet on twitter.com, website. Incase you should discover me personally on Instagram, you are able to do thus, at @christina_gracet. And it’s really really brave of me to understand my very own Instagram handle.

Drew:

Amazing work.

Christina:

Thanks a great deal.

Drew:

It certainly is a joy to talk to you and i am very thrilled to plunge into many of these interesting subject areas. And for the audience to reach understand you slightly better to get to… i do believe we are able to all, i do believe we are all going to learn on this subject trip.

Christina:

I hope therefore. We signed up for understanding.

Drew:

Yeah.

Christina:

Like a school length of podcasts. That caused it to be appear to be an outright bummer. Thus sorry.

Drew:

I am not sure. I got some really great university classes.

Christina:

Certainly, I Did So too, but I Do Not should make anyone—

Drew:

Can you imagine exactly how remarkable it would be any time you turned up to your college course and either people was the professor, or we instructed a course with each other, that’d function as hottest thing ever before. Individuals could be like…

Christina:

Preferred admission around. Enrollment is off of the data.

Drew:

Oh, we should have an occurrence that’s focused on hot professors. That is not relevant.

Christina:

That is not not related. We’ll claim that.

Drew:

Sure, sure. I believe like there could be — you must make it slightly broader, but that knows? You never know just what will be in the long term, and that’s actually interesting. While know who will know? You, listener, once you listen in every Wednesday.

Christina:

You listen in and you also crucially struck that old subscribe switch and go out with our company every Wednesday and have yourself, “Understanding a night out together?”

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. That delivers me personally to… I am not sure. I was simply wondering… was actually this a date?

Christina:

Drew, no. This can be a podcast truck.

Drew:

Oh, cool off. Okay. Great. Okay. I believe i am obtaining the hang of it while know what’s fantastic, is the fact that because I inquired, today i am aware, now in direct communication is truly what it’s everything about.

Christina:

Asked and answered. The CT motto.

Drew:

And something that the majority of people in our very own society could learn. Therefore we’re going to, ideally, this is actually something. That is a reduced amount of a podcast and much more of a political work.

Christina:

Wow. I becamen’t aware of that, but i am happy to understand that we are having both a podcast and a political act. A couple of the best situations. Two of my personal favorite factors to start out with P, podcasts and political functions.

Theme song plays.

Christina, in a voice memo:

I think my instinct is when i love an individual and I would like them inside my life, I’m sure the easiest way in my situation to ensure that they’re inside my life is to ensure they are a pal.

Drew, in a voice memo:

I’m merely thus happy we’ve become such friends. Assuming out of quarantine, that’s what took place, I made this amazing new friend, which I adore dearly and that I’m merely delighted to speak with you usually, like what a present.

Christina, in a voice memo:

Dammit. I experienced an idea also it went away. It had been honestly most likely really brilliant.